In this blog I cover how to attract a partner you'll love! (What a great Christmas present that would be...)
I’ve been in many great relationships over the years. I’ve had the hundred roses, tropical holidays, gifts, serenades and long walks on the beach – but none of those things compare to the contentment of being with someone who loves me for who I am, and who I am becoming.
That's why I'm sharing what helped me to meet my partner Kris (that's us above), so that you too can have a fantastic love life.
Here's what helped me to heal my heart and meet my soulmate:
-Writing a list of what I wanted in a partner and circling what I wasn’t being or doing – then adding those attitudes and activities into my life. We live in a fair world so if you want a sporty mate, you need to be fit enough to keep up with them! Similarly, if you want to meet a music lover, you’ll find them at a concert. It’s just plain maths.
-Throwing out letters and photos from previous partners. This was very cathartic for me. Until last year I held onto almost every postcard, lolly wrapper etc. from my old relationships…No wonder I used to feel emotionally congested – my hoarding was telling the Universe that I thought I was washed up. I literally had to make room for new love to come in.
-Becoming consciously single (and 'dating myself') for three months. On June 12, 2012 I bought white bedsheets, put away my slinky clothes and started attending meditation talks and eating organic food. I also received acupuncture and network chiropractic treatments to help me to process built up grief.
-Taking daily walks outside to freshen my perspective and lungs. Just as streetlamps only work when there's a power supply, affirmations only come true if they have energy behind them. That's why it's incredibly important to build your 'chi' through laughter, breathwork, sleep, exercise and good food, because action always precedes results.
After two months of these practices, I knew that a partner was on the way. So I moved my bed away from the wall and bought another bedside table, because in feng shui, both partners should be able to access the bed easily and furniture should match. I also purchased some towels, a pink one for me and a brown one for my boyfriend-to-be…I felt that brown would suit him (it does!)
Apart from that, I wrote a revised list of what I was looking for in a partner (including the ‘faults’ I could put up with, like 'may be messy'...because it's better to be specific). I also attended the Landmark Forum, which helped me to clear more anger. I found Landmark very confronting but it definitely got me over my pity party.
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Then, on September 15, 2012 (3 days after my 3 month break finished), I met someone awesome while filming my first TV segment. His name is Kris and we are very happy together. It was Divine intervention meeting Kris at my second big psychic talk and it confirmed for me that I was on track with my life purpose. Kris had just started his role in TV two weeks earlier so really, we hit the jackpot in our careers and love life at the same time.
A few months after this I found the list I made before meeting Kris – amazingly almost everything was spot on. The only criteria Kris didn't meet was ‘being the same height as me’ – while he is tall, Kris has a curved spine which makes him appear shorter. This is a good thing because now I wear flats more often, which I prefer. The Universe always knows what's best.
So, if you are single, my invitation to you is to light a candle and write a list next Tuesday 4 December of all the qualities you would like (and some of the ‘faults’ you could live with) in a partner. Tuesday is the best day to do this because it’s a New Moon.
Then read this list out loud and put it away. Your Angels will get to work quickly so be prepared for some surprises by Christmas! This exercise also works if you are in a relationship – just write how you would like the relationship to improve.
-To put ‘I ask for this or something better for my highest good’ at the bottom of the page. This gives your Angels a chance to exceed your expectations.
-You still need to ‘be’ the person you want to meet or date! Wild birds meet each other flying, not hiding underground :)
For more on how to meet your soulmate, visit my friend Cimone-Louise’s website. She has published a wonderful book called Saying Yes to Love, and talks about writing her romance wishlist here.
You might also enjoy this article on manifesting miracles.
Happy holiday season!
To find out more about your love life and how to meet your soulmate, book an in person or phone/ Skype reading with me for January 2014. I'd love to meet you soon.